I’ve talked about the time I moved from Southern California to Chicago a lot. I shared about why I did it, how scared I was to make this decision, and how it made me feel after. Other than finally being with my now husband and getting a new job, the move helped me grow as an individual.
When I was still out in California, I lived with my parents. Moving into an apartment would have been way too expensive and a waste of money, so I stayed with them well into my mid 20s. Growing up, my parents were also very involved in my life. It wasn’t a bad thing and because of it, I was able to experience a lot of things I would probably never have done on my own. Because of them, I experienced things like doing martial arts and sports. My dad was also very helpful, maybe a little too helpful. He did a lot of things on my behalf that I should have been doing myself. When it came to school work, he helped me so much and kept me on top of my studies.
But as I grew older and they continued to being a big part of my life, I realized that I wasn’t able to learn things on my own. I knew they did everything they did out of love and care but because I didn’t know how to do anything, I felt too reliant on them. At times, I felt like making my own decision would be against what they want and what they believed was best for me. I knew that I had to leave in order for me to grow as a person.
After moving away, I was on my own. I had to learn how to do “adult” things without the help of my parents. I had file my taxes, re-register my car at the DMV and even buying my own home all on my own. Well it wasn’t all on my own. I had my husband to consult to and occasionally his dad for more handy work stuff. Even though a lot of these are mundane tasks, it was an accomplishment for me to get them done on my own and honestly, I probably wouldn’t have been able to do them on my own if I still lived with my parents. I appreciate everything that my parents have done for me but I knew that I needed to experience things on my own and moving out was the only way I felt that I was able to do this.
This post was a little more personal but I hope you all still enjoyed it. I’ll see you next week!
